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Timing
It is 04:16, I'm crashing - why does my brain pick now to ponder getting a vasectomy? Sure, it isn't the first time I thought about it - I started thinking about it over 10 years ago, and have on and off since. But it isn't a huge concern - I'd have to be having sex for it to be a concern at all, etc. Yeah, I'm pretty sure that I don't want kids. I've felt the same way for over 10 years, since I first really considered it. I'm not a big fan of kids, and I'm, frankly, too selfish a person - I don't want to give up my freedom or have that responsibility. Kids are ok if you can spoil them and give them back. I want to be a grandparent, but skip that middle step. ;-) Or the crazy uncle - but I'd need a sibling for that to work. (Though maybe I'll end up with a woman who has a breeder sibling.) It is kind of funny, lately I've been running into more and more people who label themselves as 'childfree'. I'd been largely unaware of this 'movement', or whatever you'd call it. People who seem to be upset at society's pressure to have kids, or the attitudes expressed by people who think you need children to be 'complete'. As with most such things, I find it amusing in some way - I don't want kids, and I don't care what label that entails. But I don't pay much attention to what society expects of me anyway, so why should this be any different? But I guess I my opinion happens to be that shared by those I know who are 'childfree'. (The label is distinct from 'childless' - meant to indicate a deliberate choice, freedom from having a child, not a loss, void, etc.)

But still, this is not the time for my brain to want to do soul searching and ponder deep, life altering decisions. This is time for sleep.

I am: tired tired
Current Media: quiet

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Comments
juldea From: juldea Date: September 21st, 2003 11:25 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
There's a childfree LJ community if you're interested... I used to read it daily but it's too much of "god I hate this bratty kid I saw in the mall" and less intelligent discussion of the choice.

They'll be happy to see a childfree male in there, however, since much of the discussion (outside of horrible kids) is complaining about how hard it is to get non- or difficultly-reversible contraceptive procedures for childless women. Don't know why this country's medical system wants people to have MORE kids... *grumble*
zonereyrie From: zonereyrie Date: September 21st, 2003 11:30 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
Yeah, I've seen childfree before - I thought about it, but:
1. It is very high volume, and I already read a LOT of stuff. (Checkout my friends page. ;-) )
2. As you said, so many of the posts just seem to be venting and bitching. And while I'm cool with that, I don't feel the need to do so. I don't want kids, but I don't care if other people do. Some of the childfree people seem to be a bit, er... rabid about the whole 'no kids' thing.

My understanding is that the trouble is more our legal system than the medical system. Doctors have been sued by women with "buyer's remorse" - they get tied, then later in life decide they want children and decide to blame the doctor for doing this life altering procedure on them when they should've known better. Or something. Really it comes down to a lack of personal responsibility for your actions and decisions, and placing the blame on anyone but yourself.
juldea From: juldea Date: September 21st, 2003 11:47 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
I don't see how that's not a matter of signing a form that excuses the doctor from performing the procedure that I ask for. :P
zonereyrie From: zonereyrie Date: September 21st, 2003 11:53 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
It should be - but our legal system likes to protect us from ourselves. Since the doctor is a professional with all the knowledge, and the patient is a stooge, the doctor should've explained it better... or something.

I think we are in strong agreement on this one. It is my body, if I claim to be making an informed decision then the courts should laugh my lawsuit out the door. "Did you ask for it? Did you sign this consent form? Then get the fuck out of my court!"
juldea From: juldea Date: September 21st, 2003 12:01 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
*nods* definitely in agreement.
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