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Unintentional offense - and trying not to offend - how do you handle this?
z_gryphon From: z_gryphon Date: March 26th, 2003 06:17 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
I don't worry about it, because I recognize that the "friend" function is really the "do I want this person to be reading my not-for-everybody posts?" function and the "do I want to read this person's LJ?" function, which are really two separate functions anyway. (And, with the "default view" user group, they can be managed as separate functions, too - I have several users whose LJs I don't read, but who I'm perfectly content to have reading my less-than-public posts.) My philosophy is that if the other users can't work out that that's what those functions really are, and have nothing at all to do with liking or disliking them, then they have an issue to work out, not me.
mindways From: mindways Date: March 27th, 2003 06:22 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
*nod* Likewise. My primary use of friends is as a screen for who can read my stuff, with custom friend groups providing detail (which I generally don't need, I've found); secondary is for friend-groups I use to read LJs. (My default group has "everyone I want to read frequently", another has "high-volume posters that will flood my friends page if they're not given their own space", etc.)

I do not have infinite time, so I don't friend anyone who friends me. The way I have it set up, I could do so and still neither read their journal nor let them read my entries...but it'd feel like I was lying. I'd rather be truthful + trust them to be mature about it.