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Ah yes, I know the feeling. - MegaZone's Safety Valve
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zonereyrie
zonereyrie
Ah yes, I know the feeling.
Today's Dilbert.

Yes, actually, I do tend to get the "What kind of trick is the universe trying to pull on me?" if an attractive woman ever expresses interest in me. I relate.

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also_huey From: also_huey Date: February 5th, 2006 11:03 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
Sing it, brother.

It's even more frightening when there's more than one of them. If there's only one of them, she can be crazy or defective in some way. If there's two? It must be some kind of conspiracy...
almsthvn From: almsthvn Date: February 6th, 2006 05:45 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
oh yeah, we run in packs, you know. There's safety in numbers.
weaktwos From: weaktwos Date: February 5th, 2006 03:16 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Awww. the poor perfect woman.
zonereyrie From: zonereyrie Date: February 5th, 2006 09:57 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Yep.
pawo From: pawo Date: February 5th, 2006 06:33 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Once when I was a teenager I did just what Wally does in this strip. Shameful.
osmium_ocelot From: osmium_ocelot Date: February 5th, 2006 07:19 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)

when it comes to dating women...

... you may have any two, but only two, of the following : beautiful, smart, sane.
also_huey From: also_huey Date: February 5th, 2006 11:11 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)

Re: when it comes to dating women...

Two and a half. Three and a half if you add "not poly, and married to someone else" to the list.
starjewel From: starjewel Date: February 5th, 2006 07:32 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Man... I've had a few rejections that went something like that. I can't tell you how frustrating it is. What is it that men don't get about women liking men with brains?
duane_kc From: duane_kc Date: February 5th, 2006 08:08 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Because we're completely unused to the idea of women liking us *at all*, and panic.
starjewel From: starjewel Date: February 5th, 2006 08:42 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Well.. get used to it. Most of us have grown up and realize brainy guys are ideal. Hell, I've always liked geeks, but I'm not your typical female either
sleet01 From: sleet01 Date: February 5th, 2006 10:15 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Imagine being told from adolescence, both directly and by society, that you'll never be good enough to, I don't know, be on the City Council. Not only that, but even if you had the qualifications to be president of the city council, you would be overlooked because of a number of (to you) superficial qualities you probably can't do anything about - your interests, your upbringing, your general body design.

Then imagine that, while doing exactly the stuff you were ostracized for, you are approached by the city council of an extremely hip and happening city... San Diego or something. They'd like you to be their president, you'll be paid for your time, and you won't even have to quit your current job: they'll arrange for a relocation with your company.

Now, nothing about you has really changed. In addition, in order to rationalize your continued rejection by city councils all over the country to this point, you've mangled your own self-image to make it both inevitable and right that you should be rejected by city councils. That way it's not your fault, and you can even remain ambivalent about the whole thing, at least consciously. But then San Diego comes calling.

So you look that gift horse straight in its mouth; you probably grab some dental tools and a book of common equine tooth afflictions, even, because the whole of your life experience has inculcated in you an abiding suspicion when it comes to Good Things, especially if city councils are involved. Something's got to be up.

In the past, you may have been given hints that a city council position might be in the works if you only did a few pro bono consulting jobs; those likely never panned out. Worse still was the time a city council invited you to an interview and then put the video on a local cable access show for laughs. Perhaps you really wanted to be on a city council in your hometown but were rejected because your campaign wasn't spiffy enough; that made it especially hard to take when you went home for your ten year reunion and found that the council went with a person exactly like you after the first candidate didn't work out.

It's not that you want to be suspicious of San Diego - let's face it, San Diego is a lovely city and if it works out, you'll probably be happy together forever - but you can't help it. You have the kind of mind custom-made for pattern matching, and that mind has been battered with this particular pattern for decades.

Sorry for the tortured metaphore, but I thought I could avoid hitting buttons on either side if I made this a commentary sans loaded, gender-specific terms. But if you want to pursue brainy guys exclusively, you'll need to realize that introversion, intelligence, and bad experiences generally combine to make a person pretty wary. I think only a lucky few can look back on their past and laugh it off.
duane_kc From: duane_kc Date: February 5th, 2006 11:54 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
In my case, my "home community" seems to have an addiction to councilors who rob the pension plan, sell all the malls to shady developers, and then try to blame their constituents for the whole mess.

I'm only good enough to help put the town back together until the next election.
zonereyrie From: zonereyrie Date: February 5th, 2006 09:55 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
When you're a geek you get trained over time that you can expect to be teased and picked on, especially by the Beautiful People. All the way back in 7th grade some of the popular girls thought it would be funny to come on to me as a joke, because it would be just so funny to hit on the geeky kid and see how long they could keep a straight face. (Not long.)

And a lot of geeks, myself definitely included, have self-image issues, self-confidence issues, etc. So you're automatically suspicious when someone is nice to you, especially someone you find attractive. Why are they being nice to me? They can't actually like me, so what's their angle?

I know, it is fucked up.
starjewel From: starjewel Date: February 6th, 2006 07:53 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
Hey... I was a girl geek. I remember 7th grade. My clique from elementary school abandoned me for the cheerleading squad and I was more interested in computers and reading books. Wanna talk about self confidence issues? Getting rejected by intelligent men and thinking there *is* something wrong with me. I'm a Systems and Network Engineer and I work my ass off every day to get even half the amount of respect that my male counterparts do. I've got breasts therefore I can't possibly know what I'm doing. It goes both ways, my friend :)
zonereyrie From: zonereyrie Date: February 6th, 2006 08:21 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
I know it does. I've seen female colleagues get disrespected just because they were women. Usually from asshole male customers - back when I was in support, starting my career, there was more than one time some jackass would call and say something like "No, I need to talk to a *real* engineer, honey" to one of my co-workers.

I used to have her transfer those guys to me if they wouldn't let up - then I'd rip them a new asshole and transfer them back.

We had a good boss, he let us do that kind of thing.

I just wish I could find a girl geek who shared a mutual attraction. That's kind of the dream. :-)
starjewel From: starjewel Date: February 6th, 2006 08:27 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
Heheh I've gotten that line. I don't do support... hell, i don't deal with any customers, just operations and dev. However, I've had to call vendors a few times, and have gotten that, especially when they fail to fix my problem and think I have no idea what I'm talking about.

Too bad you don't live in the Bay... you'd meet a lot of girl geeks.
zonereyrie From: zonereyrie Date: February 6th, 2006 08:34 am (UTC) (Direct Link)
I did like in North Berkeley for 2.5 years, and worked in Pleasanton, and I met a few - but nothing ever worked. Of course, that was 95-98, and I was also a lot more shy and less confident then than I am now, so who knows.
duane_kc From: duane_kc Date: February 5th, 2006 08:06 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
You and me both, bub.
sleet01 From: sleet01 Date: February 5th, 2006 09:52 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
I love your icon ;_;
duane_kc From: duane_kc Date: February 5th, 2006 11:51 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
[grin] Thanks. I can't remember where I nicked it from. (Or for that matter, how it got set as my default...)
almsthvn From: almsthvn Date: February 6th, 2006 05:47 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
Maybe you should let a few of us gals practice on you for awhile :)
zonereyrie From: zonereyrie Date: February 6th, 2006 07:58 pm (UTC) (Direct Link)
The universe has a perverse sense of humor where I'm concerned - whenever I meet a woman who seems to share a mutual attraction, there is a large physical distance between us. And if they're physically close, we're just friends.

I still look at this with some bemusement. :-)
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